Erospainter

I’d love to awkwardly sway with you at an outdoor concert

“From my perspective, intimacy requires mutuality, which means mutual valuing, mutual empowerment, mutual respect, and mutual empathy. A truly intimate relationship fosters the growth of both parties, not just one.”
      - Harriet Lerner: The Dance of Intimacy

Poets and songwriters speak highly of spring as one of the great joys of life in the temperate zone, but in the real world most of spring is disappointing. We looked forward to it too long, and the spring we had in mind in February was warmer and dryer than the actual spring when it finally arrives. We’d expected it to be a whole season, like winter, instead of a handful of separate moments and single afternoons. –Barbara Holland, Endangered Pleasures

Everything is blooming most recklessly; if it were voices instead of colors, there would be an unbelievable shrieking into the heart of the night. –Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters of Rainer Maria Rilke

The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it. –Albert Einstein

I don’t know exactly what I mean by “hold something back,” except that I do it. I don’t know what the “something” is: It’s not sex—I’ve had sex pretty often, and I still hold back the “something,” whatever it is. It’s some part that’s a mystery, maybe even to me; but boys and men can tell they don’t possess it or haven’t been shown it, whatever it is, and that I’m not going to show it to them. This seems to draw them like ants to Coke spilled on a sidewalk in the summer. I feel it may be my essence or what I am deep down under all the layers. But if I don’t know what it is, how can I give it or share it with someone even if I wanted to? –Crescent Dragonwagon, The Year it Rained

chronic remorse … is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can, and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the bset way of getting clean. –Aldous Huxley, the foreward to Brave New World

Origins of high heels

Oddly enough, the very first high heels were made for soldiers in the 1500s who needed a way to keep their feet snugly tucked into their stirrups while riding on horseback.

A word of kindness is seldom spoken in vain, while witty sayings are as easily lost as the pearls slipping from a broken string

“I could just scream,” she thought as she took her place at the table alongside a set of people and programmers whose ways she could not understand.

And I’ll be happy to say,
“I never learned your customs.
I don’t remember your language
or know your ways.




I must be
from another country

Fit to be tied (expression)

Meaning: To be very angry, livid.

Example: When his wife saw the car he’d bought she was fit to be tied. 

Origin: “Tied” in this case refers to being bound as in a straight jacket. The need for being tied is to control ones actions to prevent from acting on the anger.

But I was beginning to understand something about normality. Normality wasn’t normal. It couldn’t be. If normality were normal, everybody could leave it alone. They could sit back and let normality manifest itself. But people—and especially doctors—had doubts about normality. They weren’t sure normality was up to the job. And so they felt inclined to give it a boost. –Jeffrey Eugenides, Middlesex

If you’re extraordinary, you don’t have to be ordinary. But it isn’t easy. You have to work, learn, learn some more, and be the best at what you do—whatever it happens to be. And you have to keep that thick skin, because all the people who sold out and played the game are going to resent you for succeeding on your own terms