Discipline, on the other hand, is part of an ongoing process. Discipline is, rightly speaking, only another name for the process of domination and submission. It is what the dom practises every day. A submissive is always under discipline. There are rules, there are procedures, things she must do or not do. The submissive needs to feel the constant pressure of her dom’s desire for her obedience. It doesn’t mean she must continually groan beneath the yoke (though it’s a sound any dom likes to hear from time to time). Often he can rule with a light touch. Discipline is not a set of specific procedures; it’s a state of mind. I repeat: the good submissive is always under discipline.
Sometimes, however, the dom feels the need to turn the screw. It’s at that time he may choose to institute orgasm denial, or oblige her to perform certain taxing rituals or symbolic acts, or simply give her a good spanking. A disciplinary spanking is the most direct expression of his dominance. ‘I am going to spank you because I feel like it. I am going to spank you because you need it. Whether you actually at this moment want it is not something that need concern me. Or you.’
What the dom wants above all else is that his submissive truly wishes to please him. It’s not about whether she enjoys pain or humiliation or any of the other things he might inflict on her. For him, it’s fundamental that at the very core of her sexual being is a profound desire to please.
Discipline is simply the means by which she is trained to express her wish to please. Punishment is what happens when she forgets that she wants above all to please him, and pleases herself instead. The ritual of punishment lifts the guilt from her, and renders her fit for the process of discipline to be reinstated.